On this year 2020 Mother’s Day, I choose love. I have healthy inmates ( my kids) and a guy who is willing plant flowers in the places I choose .. my husband. There are Moms our there who do not
have that simple luxury.
My stomach has been in knots this week. It always is when a black son is shot and killed. I am truly hoping that you can read these words with the love I am intending on sending here. Any son or daughter that is shot and killed is a tragedy. White, black, young or old… no one wants a child to be shot and killed. EVER
When I received a text from a black friend that read… ” Thank you for posting about the video. It truly means a lot xo” I knew I had to say more. She was talking about Ahmaud Arbery, I posted a meme that said YOU KNOW THEY DIDN’T MAKE ARRESTS BECAUSE THEY SAW THE VIDEO, THEY MADE ARRESTS BECAUSE WE SAW THE VIDEO. So, here it is.
As a white Mom with a white Son, I have never had to say to Brody “walk carefully in a WAWA and look everyone in the eye so they do not accuse you of something you did not do.” My friends who have black sons have had to give versions of that advice to their sons. I understand why , but, I am always sad they have to do so.
When I received the text from my friend I realized two things. One, I actually have a ton of really close black friends. Two, maybe I am not speaking up enough for those friends.
SO HERE IT GOES… it is not OK to ignore racism. It is not OK to say things like ” we don’t know the whole story” It is not OK to be OK with the fact that white men are shooting black sons who are jogging through a white neighborhood.
On this Mother’s Day, I choose love. I think I have encouraged both of my kids to love all of their friends… to protect all of their friends. In non-Covid times I love hugging and laughing with my friends. On this Mother’s Day, I am more committed than ever to being louder and stronger with my feelings about this. It is not OK that a Mom is not able to have Mother’s Day breakfast with her son because he was black.
I will do more.
I promise to say more.
Because, I love my friends … all of them.